(12) Love

I am a huge fan of film , especially romance , and I have never come across any films that so closely

and accurately depict what true love really is. Highly recommend everyone to sit through the trilogy.

What contributes to a stable , lasting , and most importantly happy relationship?

The key lies in cultivating love between two people , instead of cherry picking the highlights of the relationship. And how do we cultivate love? By taking action. Most people stop giving efforts when they are pass the honey-moon phase of the relationship. We all think the work should be done before the relationship phase , and after we get ourselves into one we can relax and enjoy the fruition. Much like a Hollywood romantic comedy , where all the conflicts and problems appear before the 2 protagonists get together , then the curtains fall and they ( presumably ) live happily ever after , which couldn't be further from the truth.

Majority of the work actually starts after the curtains fall. We all have the desire to be validated , to be known , to have a deeper level of intimacy with our significant other. Perhaps the most important thing we can do is to open up and let the other person in. We will sooner or later realize that no one is perfect , and no one can ever live up to our expectation of a perfect relationship , simply because the idea of a perfect person , and a perfect relationship is a mirage. Look great from afar , and disappear the moment you approach it. Give yourself the permission to be human , but at the same time give him or her the permission to be human too.

Have a nice meal together at least twice a week. Communicate freely , it doesn't have to be properly structured or agenda based. Simply having a good time together , and let the conversation flow is a great way of strengthening the bond. Do not forget before being a couple , or getting into marriage , both of you are the best friend for each other. Happy relationship and marriage , is essentially a deep friendship. We often forget how to be a pair of really good friends after we become a couple.

Maintain the same amount of compliments , empathy , toleration and acceptance when you both were friends. Love is in the details. Face the problems you both have , but at the same time do not forget what is working , and what got you both together in the first place. Instead of looking for benefits in the relationship , strive to create benefits together as a couple.

There is no elixir that we can take to solve relationship issues overnight , and promise us a happily ever after relationship. Love has and always will be the central theme of many forms of art , everything worth mentioning about love has been mentioned.

I am merely here to remind everyone that a stable , lasting , most importantly happy relationship is constant work , because in real life the curtains never really fall. And if you're really in love , you never want the curtains to fall.

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